I read an interesting post today by a teacher who was so frustrated about her studentâ€™s that she was in tears. Many of the subsequent posters were sympathetic and offered sympathies equal to â€œit isnâ€™t the teacherâ€™s fault if the children donâ€™t practice, the parents are always on the cell phone,â€ blah, blah, blah!
Not wanting to steal John Stosselâ€™s thunder â€œGive me a break!â€ this teacher has thirty seven students that are performing in the recital and she is focused on the few that canâ€™t make it or are not doing well.
Students are like clay – they need to be molded and shaped. It is true the parents can be the biggest influence, but to pass the buck solely to the parents, and have a pity party for one teacher is just not reasonable.
My sonâ€™s music teacher is far more inspiring than I have ever been and he garners so much respect from the children he teaches that it is actually the children leading the charge to practice.Â
As far as parents at lessons talking on cell phones, this probably has little or nothing to do with the student practicing, and at this point, is just an accelerant to the already present frustration.
Teachers should make it their resolve to bring the lessons to life, be inspiring and most of all be inspired. Remember what made music your first love. I doubt that any of us are playing instruments because our parents nagged us so enthusiastically that we just couldnâ€™t wait to play again. My brother and I are still grounded in two sates as a result of refusing to practice. He plays three instruments and composes music and I play both the radio and the piano.
There is a saying in football â€œAny given Sunday, any team can win!â€ This is true on every day for every student. On any given day any student can become inspired.
To all of the frustrated teachers who feel that the parents are not pitching in, the students arenâ€™t practicing and they are just plain discouraged, I say â€œCarpe Diem!â€
Make today the day that you handle your studentâ€™s challenges with grace and view them as opportunities not obstacles!