Isn’t it funny how often we say that we know what we want, but we can’t seem to get there? In my job as a life coach for musicians, this is one thing I often hear from my clients. So we draw diagrams, put together action plans, list next steps, set goals for 3 months, 6 months, one year… And then the next time we meet often little has changed. I’ve come to expect this now, and don’t take it as a setback. It’s just a sign that other factors have come into play. This article is about how to tackle those other factors that get between you and what you really want. [···]
What do we as music professionals owe our students?
I just came back from the Classical Singer Convention in Chicago. I heard some AMAZING singing and some really good singing. Unfortunately, I also heard some excruciatingly bad singing – from people who are trying to make it in the singing business. This means that they spent the money to attend the convention (fees, hotel, flights…), they are paying for voice lessons and coachings, and somebody is telling them that they are ready for a professional career.
When I teach, I try to make sure that I am honest with my students about their possibilities. I can teach anyone to sing. I cannot make them practice. I cannot overcome certain physical characteristics. I do have several students who have potential and might want a career. I have other students who tell me that they want careers in singing, but don’t practice. Do I have the right, ever, to smash someone’s dream? But, I also have the responsibility to let my student know that they might be wasting their time in pursuit of the goal of being a professional singer. I will NEVER tell my student that they “can’t sing,” as I believe everyone is able to sing (even if just in the shower). I think, though, that I do need to gently let them know that their goals are possibly not within reach – if they don’t have the vocal strength/stamina, dedication to practicing, physical qualifications. Many necessary skills can be learned and improved on. If you REALLY want it, I believe that you should try your hardest. This, though, includes clear self-honesty on YOUR part. You cannot make it in this business and be delusional about your flaws or bad habits.
That being said, I think that students MUST be aware of their voice and take responsibility for their training. Do you record your lessons and listen with a critical ear? This doesn’t mean being hard on yourself & deciding you are a horrible singer. Do you just like your teacher and are impressed with them, or are you REALLY improving? Does your voice, honestly, compare with those currently performing the same repertoire (and getting paid for it & re-hired for it)? If not, what do you need to do to get up to that level? Is your teacher guiding you in this path? Are you REALLY making enough progress to be able to achieve your goals within a reasonable time?
Things to beware of with teachers, no matter their qualifications: [···]